Forget Your Feelings

On any given day, if you asked me what I desire most, I would probably answer to sit at the feet of the Lord and bask in His presence. I want to please God. I want to hear Him say someday, "Servant, well done."

But I won't lie and tell you that everyday, I feel like praising God. There are days that I literally wake up sleepy. Not ready to tackle the day or face whatever is ahead. I'd prefer to just go back to sleep because I'm just that tired. There are Sundays when I don't feel like going to church and if I am PMS'ing I certainly don't feel like serving with anybody's ministry. To be honest honey, there are some days that I don't feel like praying when I wake up, studying the word or meditating. Sometimes I don't feel like being nice to people, helping them out, giving them a ride, being a listening ear or whatever. 

Maybe you've never had a day when you're running late, have a million things to do, and places to go. But I have and I know that on those days, I feel like I just don't have time to sit down and study the Bible. Sometimes there are so many other things on our mind that we are trying to deal with or figure out that we just don't feel like we have the energy to spend time in prayer. We figure we can't concentrate enough to meditate anyway. We don't feel like praising. We're so tired that it would be a halfhearted effort and God knows our heart, right? But these are the very times that we should push ourselves and do it anyway. There are times when we know the right thing to do but those feelings take over. It's nothing new sis. Paul said in Romans I do not understand what I do. For what I want to do I do not do, but what I hate to do. And if I do what I do not what to do, I agree that the law is good. 

What we have to understand is that we don't praise God, worship God, or obey God because we feel like it. Feelings change. Feelings are based on our flesh and the Word tells us that we are to die to our flesh. (Romans 8:13-14) We praise, worship and obey because He is God! This isn't a matter of what we want to do, sis. It is a matter of what we were created for; to worship and be obedient. It is a matter of what we have to do! The KJV of Isaiah 43:21 says,"This people have I formed for myself; they shall show forth my praise". John 14:23 says, “Anyone who loves me will obey my teaching. My Father will love them, and we will come to them and make our home with them." Look, I can't speak for you sis, but I certainly want God to make His home with me! 

There are numerous other accounts in the Bible were God's faithful servants who were obedient despite their feelings were blessed. Job probably didn't feel like doing anything anymore. Surely Moses didn't feel like leading such hard headed, ungrateful people.  And I know Jacob didn't feel like working seven more years to marry Rachel. My pastor, Pastor Raley, reminds us often that we shouldn't wait until we feel something to praise God, we should just praise Him until we feel something. 

There are things in life that God has instructed me to do that I really didn't want to do, but I did it because the last thing I want to do is disobey my Father. I want Him to be pleased with me. Pastor Donnie McClurkin once said that you don't obey God because you want to, you do it because you have to. He went on to say, "How many times did your momma tell you to do something and you didn't want to, but you did it anyway." Sure there were times when she told you to wash dishes or take out the trash. You rolled your eyes and mumbled under your breath... but you did it. God doesn't really care about you complaining, He doesn't care how you feel about what He has instructed. Girl... HE IS GOD! Do what He says despite how you feel or whether or not you "think" it's the best thing. 

You can't see what God can see. He is alpha and omega, the beginning and the end. So while you are deciding whether to follow His instructions based on your own knowledge, feelings, perception, intuition, or understanding, He has decided based on a known outcome ......that He created. 

I will say that I am at a point where I am hungry for God's presence, I am thirsty for His guidance, and I seek to be in constant contact with Him. It's just that I don't feel like working at it every second of every day. There are times during the day or on particular days where I push myself to read and study the word. I've even set alarms on my phone that notify me hourly with a note that reminds me to think about Jesus. By now, praying has become second nature but I certainly had times when I woke up, showered, got ready and thought to myself "Did I pray this morning?" It took me pushing my feelings aside and building habits of obedience. We must practice being obedient despite how we feel based on our faith in God. Your faith in Him leads you to obey despite what situations look like or how you feel because you know He has your best interest at heart. 

So despite how you feel, what you want to do, or what you think is right... your best bet will ALWAYS be to obey what God says. 

You might not feel like praying with others... (James 5:16)
You might not feel like feeding the homeless..... (Matthew 25:40) 
You might not feel like refraining from having sex with that man that isn't your husband..... (1 Thessalonians 4:3–4)
You might not feel like being single...... (1 Corinthians 7:34-40)
You might not feel like being kind and compassionate.... (Ephesians 4:32) 
You might not feel like reading the bible today.... (Joshua 1:8)

Think of it like this.. what if God didn't feel like doing any of the things He has done for you? What if Jesus hadn't of been crucified because He didn't feel like it? Sis, your reward is being stored in heaven. God sees your obedience and your sacrifices. He sees when you are serving others and striving to trust Him more than your feelings and flesh. Stop being hard headed and trust God's infinite wisdom over your simple little feelings. The last thing you want is for God to place you in time out....forever! 

With Love, :) 
-Kimyatta 

Daily Prayer: Heavenly Father, please help me to die to the flesh and disregard my feelings. Guide me in Your way and instruct me in Your will. Forgive me for being disobedient and give me the strength to obey despite how I feel. 

Scripture to Study: "For if you love Me, you will keep My commandments." John 14:15

While You Wait Part 2

As I alluded to in the previous post, the wait is a test of our faith. When we know that God has promised us something, we want it NOW! But during the period between revelation and reception, we are given the opportunity to show God that we trust His word. We are able to work towards the promise and practice contentment. This is an example of how to "work your faith". When you truly believe that what God has in store for you is coming, you take steps that may not make sense to others. You make decisions and operate as if you are getting ready. Those on the outside looking in will have a hard time understanding your actions. Don't let them discourage you! This is called radical faith and it pleases God. You are taking whatever steps necessary to get ready for what God has for you. Here are some examples of what radical faith might look like:

• Waiting on a husband? - Start practicing home management like cooking regularly, eliminating debt, and personal grooming (You wanna be fine for your man, don't you sis?) 
• Waiting on a baby? - Prepare yourself physically to carry a child and practice better time management to prepare for having to get two people ready instead of one. 
• Waiting on a promotion? - Research what the job entails, dress the part, ask for more responsibilities to prepare yourself.
• Waiting on a new job? - Update your resume', have interview attire ready, and start practicing interview questions. 
• Waiting on a financial breakthrough? - Tithe on the amount you are expecting, sow in faith, write out a budget for the increase to prepare proper stewardship over the money. 
• Waiting on a new house? - Buy a new comforter set or bathroom decor, maybe just a new welcome mat and put it up.

There is nothing worse than opportunity knocking at your door and you aren't home or dressed to open the door. There is no such thing as being too prepared. To continue practicing after you have prepared will ensure that you have built a habit and will make you more comfortable when you receive it. By progressively making strides towards whatever it is you are waiting for you renew your hope. You are also showing God that you are fully confident in Him. When someone is confident in you, doesn't it kinda encourage you to perform to the best of your abilities? When people believe we can do something, we do our best to get it done. Well, God is that way too. 

Sometimes the wait is prolonged because of our very own disobedience. It may be a tough pill to swallow, but our inability or unwillingness to follow God's ordered steps can sometimes make us have to wait longer for "it" than He initially planned. The choices that we make during the waiting process can directly affect the time of the wait. If God has revealed a five point to-do list and you knock it out, your "it" may come a little quicker than if you procrastinated in getting it done. Like the Israelites who wandered around the desert for 40 years, we sometimes take an altered path outside of the directives God has given us and lead ourselves into the wilderness. (Then complain and cry about it... even though it is our own fault we are lost. Just being honest, sis.) Hebrews 3:16, 18-19 says "Who were they who heard and rebelled? Were they not all those Moses led out of Egypt? … And to whom did God swear that they would never enter his rest if not to those who disobeyed? So we see that they were not able to enter, because of their unbelief". You may not have reached the promise land yet, because you are still wandering around in the wilderness. We often fail to obey God's instructions because we simply don't believe that it's going to happen. In other instances, we are scared of sacrificing comfort to follow God's orders. And lastly, it's possible that we just don't think we can accomplish the task or we deserve the "it" God has revealed. Remember sis, God will equip us to complete whatever task He sets before us and He wants you to have His best. God purposefully gives us task to complete that we are not qualified to do on our own or items that many wouldn't think we deserve so that when we receive it there is no other explanation than BUT GOD! This way, He is certain to get the glory.

You might not have "it" yet, because you haven't received it. Yep, you've been waiting, you are prepared but you weren't expecting. Sounds silly, huh? Sometimes "it" will show up and we don't even recognize it! The Word says "See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the desert and streams in the wasteland." (Isaiah 43:19)  A dear friend told me recently "You ain't waiting on God, He's waiting on you!" Do what needs to be done so that you can receive all that the Lord has for you, honey. Then wait... expectantly! It may not come from the direction that you anticipated, it may not come at the time you thought it would, it may not look like you envisioned. But that might be your "it", sis! All you have to do, is claim it. Open your heart and your eyes. Pray for God to give you a spirit of discernment so that you are able to recognize when He blesses you with answers to your prayers. Seek God for a plan and get on it. If you have completed His orders, stay faithful, consistent and be on the lookout. 

God uses the wait to protect us from sinning sometimes. Remember me asking why you wanted "it" anyway? Well sometimes we focus so much on the "it" that it becomes an idol. We think about it more than we do God. We are determined to do what we have to do so that we can get "it" and if having faith in God is going to accomplish that then, okay. Whoa sis...check the motives on that!! If you are thinking about the "it" more than you think about God, then it's borderline idolatry and the Word warns us of this extensively. God may not give us something that He knows will distract us from Him or negatively impact our relationship with Him. He loves us enough to protect us from ourselves. Can't go to church because you signed up to work overtime to be able to afford that car you were waiting on? No time to study the Word because you're chillin with that man you've been waiting on? Or even worse maybe the man you've been waiting on is now in your life...but he wants to have sex before marriage? Are you exhibiting ungodly behavior or doing things you know aren't Christ-like to advance the corporate ladder and get that promotion you've been waiting for? Well, God knows these things may happen and He is a very jealous God. If there is a chance your "it" will accidentally become your god (notice the lowercase g), God may very well protect you by withholding your it. Your wait will strengthen your relationship with Him to ensure it's a bond that can't be easily broken or replaced. 

If you are anything like me, you are probably wondering why God would reveal something to us, but not tell us when, where, how, or maybe even who! I believe that there are occasions that if we knew the finite details of God's plan, we would impede on His sovereignty. We would attempt to take matters into our own hands to speed up the process. In doing so, we would skip out on the development process and possibly put ourselves in danger. We would cut the prep period short and enter into the promise underdeveloped. Practice makes perfect and the more you work on the things He has revealed the more prepared for "it" you'll be. By rushing things, we would accidentally tell God, "You taking too long, I got this." You would cease to operate your faith and trust in God by attempting to make things happen on your own. You would take away the glory that is rightfully God's. Yep, by disrespecting the timeline that God has set for us, we are taking away the glory that He gets IF the "it" happens to come to pass. 

God is the clock-maker. He knows exactly how the clock works. He existed before time and exist yet and still beyond time. God's plan is perfect and His promise is true. Imagine how much sweeter it will be after you've waited for "it" for so long. Imagine how much more appreciative you will be. Imagine how pleased you will make your Father in heaven when you trust Him and take Him at His word. Imagine how much glory it will bring God when the world knows the certainty of those that wait on the Lord. Imagine how much more peace you will have knowing you've prepared and practiced for your "it". Stop watching the clock, sis. As you are going about the business of Christ, trust me... He will be taking care of your business. Don't rush Him. Wait.

Keep in mind that some of the promises, some of the rewards are being stored in heaven. There may be somethings that you are waiting on that God wants to personally hand you Himself when you get to Kingdom. Don't be discouraged with a man made, cultural timeline. This world and everything in it will fade away but those things that are stored in heaven are eternal. Live daily seeking God's calling and purpose for you. We all want to hear Him say "Servant, well done." He will give us the desires of our hearts if they align with His will, but the word doesn't say when and if He doesn't, He is still God! Besides....the ultimate wait my dear, is the one for the return of our Savior. It will all be worth it. 

Love you, 
Kimyatta

Daily Prayer: God thank you for making me wait. I understand that although sometimes I get impatient, I trust that You know what is best. Thank you for giving me time and training me to be a proper steward over all that You have planned for me. 

Below I have listed several scriptures that help me out when I'm getting impatient. You may want to bookmark them or refer back to this post when you need the encouragement as well. I know it get's tough, sis. Let's pray for each others peace. 

• Isaiah 40:31 - but those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint. 
• Psalm 40:1 - I waited patiently for the Lord; He turned to me and heard my cry.
• Psalm 25:21 - May integrity and uprightness protect me, because my hope, Lord, is in You. 
• Isaiah 30:18 - Yet the Lord longs to be gracious to you; therefore he will rise up to show you compassion. For the Lord is a God of justice. Blessed are all who wait for him!
• Psalm 5:3 - In the morning, Lord, You hear my voice; in the morning I lay my request before You and wait expectantly. 
• Hosea 12:6 - But you must return to your God; maintain love and justice and wait for your God always. 
• Lamentations 3:24 - I say to myself, "The Lord is my portion; therefore I will wait for him." 
• Psalm 38:15 - Lord, I wait for you; you will answer, Lord my God. 
• Psalm 130:5 - I wait for the Lord, my whole being waits, and in His word I put my hope. 
• Psalm 33:20 - We wait in hope for the Lord; He is our help and our shield. 
• Romans 8:25 - But if we hope for what we do not yet have, we wait for it patiently. 
• Psalm 27:14 - Wait for the Lord; be strong and take heart and wait for the Lord. 

While You Wait Part 1

Time flies when you're having fun, huh? Well it definitely doesn't fly when you are waiting on something. Actually it seems to stop. Well.. your time seems to while everyone else's is moving right along and honey that will frustrate the strongest of saints. I don't know about you, sis. But patience is something I struggle with. It is something that I am working on, praying for and learning how to apply. I heard a minister say recently that praying for patience was risky because if God gives you patience that may mean you have to wait longer for what your "it" is. I agree. But I also believe with my whole heart that the God that created time, knows better than anyone when it is time. We frequently comment that "all things happen in God's time." And despite how convincingly we make the statement, we are not always okay with that. You're human sis, I know you get impatient too. Waiting on that check, house, new car, husband, promotion, new job, baby, opportunity, revelation or peace...OMG! When, Lord?!!! 

Whatever it is you are waiting for, you want it now! I'll be honest, there are some things that I want NOW as well. But I know that the reality is that I very well may not be ready for them or prepared for all that these things may bring. I understand that I need to prepare, practice, and plan for whatever my "it" is and when God, the Giver of all things, feels I am ready, it'll come. God's time is not like man's. Why do you want it now anyway? Is it to make life easier on yourself, to make yourself happy, or to fulfill God's purpose? Check your motives instead of the clock. While we only see the clock on the wall, the sunset or sunrise, the calendar numbers change... He see's the beginning, the end, and an entire picture of how all aspects surrounding every situation will be effected. While we may only be thinking about our position or promotion, God is strategically arranging things so that they will work together for the good of all of those that love the Lord! (Romans 8:28)

Although I know these things, there are still times when the wait is a bit difficult. The anticipation of what is to come can cause us girls a mountain of stress because we are wired to over-analyze situations. Stress is brought about when we are not aware of what is going on or we feel that we are not in control. I certainly understand and have too laid in my bed for hours unable to sleep thinking about "when". This can be especially frustrating when God has shown you or confirmed the "it" to you, but there is not a direct timeline available. Or maybe you thought there was a designated time and it has come and gone. Chances are that designated time was not God's time therefore it was irrelevant. Remember sis, anytime we feel anxiety because of lack of control or uncertainty about what is going on during the wait or why, we are not fully trusting God. We want to know what day, what time, what hour, and what minute. It is very easy to exclaim that we have faith, but worrying (caused by thinking too much usually) means that faith is not being put into practice. It is just being announced. You know like I do that faith without works is dead. (James 2:17)

The wait isn't a bad thing though. Hear me out, beloved. There are several reasons why the wait is beneficial. Our Heavenly Father knew this concept would be hard to grasp and harder to practice so He gave us plenty of encouragement in His word regarding the wait. (I'll give you a few go-to scriptures later.) The struggle to wait on the Lord's promise is also not something new. It has been an issue with man since back when God promised Abraham and Sarah they would conceive as they approached and surpassed childbearing years. Recall with me that Sarah, impatient in the wait, had her servant Hagar sleep with Abraham to bear a child for her. (What Sarah?!) Yeah, you may not be able to relate to Sarah's impatience but if you think a little I am certain you can recall a situation in which you tried to take time into your own hands and make something happen.  I have learned that when we attempt to take time into our own hands, we are taking our lives out of God's hand. How many messes have you made with your hands? How many messes has God made with His? I think you would agree with me that His hands are the best place for our lives to be because clearly we've messed it up before. Maybe you haven't... but I have. 

Waiting serves several important purposes. Generally we are not ready for what we are waiting for. God understands that there is a process for promotion. Any step up in additional responsibility requires some level of preparation or training. You may be waiting on a new car but are not in the best financial position to make the payments. You may be waiting on a husband but there are some personal, financial, or emotional issues that you need to work out before committing to someone else lifelong. You may be waiting on a new job but there are skills that you need to acquire or discipline that you need to obtain before entering a new career. On the other hand, you may be ready to receive what God has for you but it isn't ready for you. Maybe God is working on getting the interest rates down on the car, cleaning up your credit so that you can get a better deal, making that man into a husband (There is a difference. We'll discuss that later), or situating the new career opportunity to make it a smooth transition. There are some things going on behind the scenes that you can't see. 

It is also likely that if the prep period is rushed, we may not be prepared once we receive it. That may lead to us misusing or being disobedient with it, causing us to lose it. Something that we have waited on so long.... gone... all because we weren't ready. The right thing at the wrong time may as well be the wrong thing! Think about some of the things that you've been praying for and waiting on. If God has yet to reveal what you should be doing while you wait, seek guidance. Meditate on these things and meet me back here in a couple of days to explore the wait further. Yes... you have to wait for the next post! :) 

With Love, 
-Kimyatta

Daily Prayer: Lord, I trust Your promise. I pray that Your will be done on earth as it is in heaven. Thank You for our daily bread and enough grace to make it through today. Help me to wait on Your plan and prepare me for whatever will bring You glory. 

Instead of a scripture to study, please check the follow up post for a few scriptures that you can jot down or bookmark to help you, to encourage you while you are waiting. Let's be transparent and real with each other while we are struggling with waiting, ladies. God has not forgotten us. :)

Oh...you're a Christian?

A demonym, also known as a gentilic, is a name of a resident of a country and is derived from the name of the home of origin. The word comes from the Greek word for "populace" and helps to identify residents from a particular place. It is a personal name describing the inhabitants of an area that may be recognized by particular characteristics. The most common suffix for a demonym is "an". Here are some examples:

• Brazili-ans - people from Brazil
• Americ-ans - people from America
• Europe-ans - people from Europe
• Egypti-ans - people from Egypt

Stay with me, sis. I promise there isn't a quiz :) The people of a nation are named according to where they are from and identifiable characteristics. Meaning, if you come across an American in Japan, generally you can tell their nationality by their language, physical traits, and certain habits or mannerisms. The same applies for Egyptians, Europeans, and Brazilians. Interesting, huh? That leads me to this: 

• Christi-ans - people from Christ

The name is tossed around so loosely that it has lost significance. Are you identifiable as a Christian, one from Christ, by your language, physical traits, or certain habits and mannerisms? If you never told anyone outside of your church that you were a Christian, would they know? Even our family names, your last name has significance to many of us. We are proud to be "Sharpes, Williams, Crosses," or whatever. People that don't even know you can look at you sometimes and see a resemblance to your family members. I've definitely had people say to me "Ain't you Carolyn's daughter?" or "You look just like them Stewards". (Pardon the grammar, I'm from the country.) But when it comes to the most important title I hold, a Christian, am I as recognizable? 

When I shared with a colleague that I would be launching a blog for Christian women, she replied "But Kim, are you a Christian? I mean I know you really love Jesus and you've changed a lot. But I thought Christians wore long dresses and talked only about God or did church stuff and you know...kinda act like they think they are better than everybody else. You don't dress like that or act like that. Or maybe sometimes they say they are Christians but they are the same as everybody else. I guess I just know you love Jesus and you seem much better than you use to be." I kid you not...this is exactly what she said. It didn't offend me at all. My thought was "BINGO! Time to witness. Let's go, Holy Spirit!!!" It was an opportunity to tell somebody what it really means to be a Christian. 

Part of the issue, is society's misconception of what a Christian is or looks like. Somewhere along the line, we have given off a false sense of how to identify us. Traditionally Christians may have looked or been portrayed a certain way, due to tradition, denomination, or media. But we should be identifiable based on our relationship with Jesus Christ because that is where we are from. That is where we are "genetically" linked. Those are the habits we should have. Those of people from Christ. I want to act like Jesus did so you'll know we are related. I want to carry myself in a way that exudes joy, peace, and grace. We are called to be 'set apart'; in this world but not of it. Therefore, people in and of this world should be able to tell you are set apart (different) without you telling them. You should look differently, act differently, speak differently. 

So, what are the attributes of a Christian? How do Christian women look? 

Although it doesn't tell us in the bible exactly what outfits we should and should not wear, how much cleavage is acceptable, or how small our shorts can technically be, it does tell us that we should not do anything that would cause a brother or sister in Christ to fall. If wearing what has been deemed as sexy clothes is going to have men lusting and having ungodly thoughts then it's probably not the best option. Granted, some men will do so if you have on a potato sack so there is no need in helping them out. Women of God, Christian women should use modesty as the basis for determining attire. Modesty is behavior, manner, or appearance intended to avoid impropriety or indecency. Now I too struggle with this a bit so it is something that I am working on. I often take a second look in the mirror before wearing certain things and I keep in mind that I am a daughter of the Most High. We can still be beautiful and dress respectfully. We should be presentable, approachable, plus when you look good you feel good. 

Your nationality can also be visible in the way you live. Another way we can become identifiable as Christians is in how we conduct ourselves daily. 1 John 2:6 tells us that whoever claims to live in him must live as Jesus did.  Maybe that's not that clear. Okay, here are some characteristics that the bible gives us that can help us improve our appearance as citizens of Jesus Christ. 

1 John 2:9 further tells us that anyone who claims to be in the light but hates a brother or sister is still in darkness. If you have hate in your heart, trust me it radiates out and people can tell through your attitude, bitter demeanor, or actions. Verses 15-16 tells us that we should not love the world or anything of the world. This means that we do not lust, be prideful, or live in sin. Christians do what is right, all the time, even when no one is watching (God is always watching by the way). Webster's dictionary considers this as having integrity, but I call it acting like Jesus. Granted we all fall and sinful thoughts are bound to pop in our heads, but there is a difference in it popping there and staying there. Sometimes we really have to stop and ask ourselves that old cliche, "What would Jesus do!?" Seriously. 1 Peter 2:15 says that by doing good, you silence the ignorant talk of foolish people. In your Christian walk, people may talk bad about you. But you should live your life in a way that no one will believe them. 

Colossians 3 tells us that we should set our sights on things above. This is evident in the way we live our lives. Those of us that belong to Christ don't participate in things that are sinful: sexual immorality or impurity (fornication, adultery, etc), evil desires (wishing bad on people), or greed. Do you really think if all I knew about God was the ten commandments and I see you breaking all eleven of them, I'm going to believe that you are a Christian? No ma'am. Definitely not. Going further Colossians gives us more instructions on how to carry ourselves as Christians. We are to rid ourselves of anger, rage, malice, talking bad about people, and filthy language. We should be respectful at all times. And we definitely shouldn't be professional liars. Yeeeah...no, sis. God is the Truth. Clearly He doesn't reside in you and you don't reside in Him if you are compelled to lie every time your lips part. 

We are instructed to clothe ourselves in compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience. This is what a Christian looks like: pleasant. We are generally joyful, positive, optimistic, and encouraging. We dress with modesty, are well kept, and approachable. We are to love on people, let people know we love them and share the love of God. It will show in our actions. Christians are hard workers because we understand that we are working as though we are working for the Lord. We are to be peaceful....not messy. Not stirring trouble, looking for where the drama is and who is talking about who in their Facebook status so that we can call and tell someone else to look and see. Ah ha! (Forgive us, Lord). 

Christians are encouraging to others, we help the weak and are patient. We don't seek revenge but always strive to do what is good for each other and everyone else. (1 Thessalonians 5: 12-15) More than anything, we should take any opportunity possible to share the message of Christ, teaching those around us and praying with them. Yes, the most identifiable characteristic in where someone is from is when they begin to speak. Learn to speak Jesus, sis! It's so easy to know you are a Christian when people hear your "accent". 

And I'll cheat a little bit and give you one for free. Try to tell people, "God bless you" instead of "Thank you". Offer blessings to people as a sign of gratitude. When you are in the drive-thru getting food, if someone holds the door open for you at the store, or maybe when someone compliments your new hairstyle, instead of saying "Thanks" simply say "Bless you" and smile. Let's redefine what the world thinks a Christian looks like by our appearance and our acts! We are all family, we should all resemble our Father!!! 

Love you, 

-Kimyatta

Daily Prayer: Lord mold me into the image of Jesus Christ. Help me to live my life as a witness to Your kingdom. Make me identifiable God and mark me as a child of Yours, Heavenly Father. I am willing to do whatever I need to so that people will know I am from Christ, alive in Him and Christ lives in me! Make me over. 

Scripture to Study: To this you were called, because Christ suffered for you, leaving you an example, that you should follow his steps. 1 Peter 2:21

Dangerous Grace

Amazing Grace, how sweet the sound,

That saved a wretch like me.

I once was lost but now am found,

Was blind, but now I see.

T'was Grace that taught my heart to fear.

And Grace, my fears relieved.

How precious did that Grace appear

The hour I first believed.

Read those lyrics again, sis. Don't just thoughtlessly sing along like you do when you hear it in church. Take a minute and let the lyrics actually sink in. Anybody that has been to church or was raised around somebody's grandma probably knows this hymn. Amazing Grace was written by John Newton over 100 years ago. Newton was a former slave trader who was said to have lived such a sinful, vile lifestyle that it almost drove him insane. He wrote the song after he cried out to God for forgiveness and was born again. Like, Mr. Newton, I was a mess! But because of God's amazing grace, I'm saved. Grace saved me. God has given me grace to enter the Kingdom of Heaven and to access His riches despite the fact that I lived like hell for so long. I definitely don't deserve it. But just like that... God loves me unconditionally and gives me grace to love Him back. And that very same grace, that has saved you as well... is often taken for granted. 

I've known the song since I was a very young child, but a few months back, during worship we began to sing it. Tears filled my eyes as I became overwhelmed with the significance of the lyrics. My heart filled with awe in realizing just what the songwriter was conveying. You see... you don't really understand Amazing Grace until you have been through some stuff; until you have experienced and understand just how amazing God's grace really is. 

Grace is a virtue from God, a gift to man, often considered unmerited favor. It is an undeserved assistance that is not earned or rewarded based on acts. You can't work for grace or get more of it because you are a super Christian. (Ephesians 2:8-9) No matter how bad we mess up or how convicted we feel, God forgives us based on His grace. There are different types of grace but the grace that has been described as amazing is the redeeming grace. It is the grace that allows us to maintain relationship with Christ and get back on a path of righteousness after we've fallen. Ephesians 2:4-5, might be one of the best passages to describe God's grace. (4) But because of his great love for us, God, who is rich in mercy, (5) made us alive with Christ even when we were dead in transgressions - it is by grace you have been saved. Yeah, that is definitely amazing! Maybe I should remind you again...there is nothing that we can do to earn the grace that God gives us, it is received through faith. 

The sad thing is, Christians are dangerous in grace because we fully understand the extent of God's forgiveness. We know that we will be forgiven for our sins if we repent so we enter sin and compromising behavior with knowledge of God's grace and mercy. We then take advantage of this amazing grace that we are given. Romans 6:1-2 says "What shall we say, then? Shall we go on sinning so that grace may increase? By no means! We died to sin; how can we live in it any longer?" Granted, I don't believe we should walk on eggshells; living life by putting more emphasis on trying not to sin than focusing on entering a relationship with Christ. But we also shouldn't take God's grace for granted. Grace is not permission to sin, it is an allowance to live in relationship with God after we sin. I don't believe that allowance extends to when we knowingly sin against God's word. 

It is important that we live in fear and reverence of God. Keep in mind that He holds the power of life and death in His hands and knows the motives of our hearts. As the songwriter said, not only did grace teach His heart to fear God, but it also gave Him peace. Incomprehensible .. just amazing. I say all of that to say this: 

I am guilty and I have heard others prelude a statement by saying "Lord, forgive me but...". If we are asking for forgiveness before even performing the act, that means we are committing premeditated sin. We, in fact, know that the thought we are having, the statement we are making, or the actions we are about to take are not right in God's eyes, therefore we ask for forgiveness first. Are we really asking God for permission to sin??!! The motives of our hearts are not right at all in these situations. 2 Corinthians 6:1 warns us not to take grace in vain. Unfortunately this is a habit that many of us have formed and in efforts of living lives that are acceptable to God, I challenge us to stop this. The next time you begin to say it or hear someone else do so, ask them to reconsider whatever it is they were going to say. James 4:17 says if anyone, then, knows the good they ought to do and doesn't do it, it is sin for them.  

Through many dangers, toils and snares
I have already come;
'Tis Grace that brought me safe thus far
and Grace will lead me home.

This song has a totally different meaning when you truly understand what all grace has saved you from and how undeserving you are. Yes, grace has saved us from quite a bit thus far but we should never take for granted that we can continue to live as we want and expect to receive God's grace. That is the dangerous part about such an amazing grace. It is important that we repent and turn from ungodliness when God has given us grace because no man knows the time nor hour that the Son will return. 

Grace can be liken to a time period. Grace is the time period when God gives humanity His full mercy and favor. This time period is given so that we might be redeemed from our debt of sin. Our debt is due, yet God extends the payment period to allow us to obtain redemption. That's grace. Don't act like you've never taken advantage of a "grace period". That bill was due yesterday but you don't get paid until tomorrow. You were given a grace period of week to make the payment. Instead of going ahead and paying the bill tomorrow when you get paid... you wait until the last day of the "grace period". Not only that, you now know that the grace period is available so you probably won't pay it on time next month either. See where I'm going honey, that is taking advantage of grace. God gives us a grace period when we mess up. Instead of repenting and not purposely messing up again. We keep messing up because we know he is going to forgive us. Dangerous. 

In addition sis, repenting is more than just telling God you are sorry when asking for His grace. It is letting Him know you are grateful for His grace and won't do it again. Keep a healthy balance of God's grace as a gift to walk closely beside Him despite your falls while having fear and reverence that He can stop giving it to you it at any time. Don't take for granted that God will give us grace. It is unearned and undeserving. Just like with any other gift, the Giver can easily decide to withhold the gift. Not only that.... What if you messed up, intended to repent, forgot, and God called your number before He bestowed His grace? Keep grace amazing... not dangerous. 

The Lord has promised good to me.
His word my hope secures.
He will my shield and portion be,
As long as life endures.

Yea, when this flesh and heart shall fail,
And mortal life shall cease,
I shall possess within the veil,
A life of joy and peace.

When we've been here ten thousand years
Bright shining as the sun.
We've no less days to sing God's praise
Than when we've first begun.

Amazing Grace, how sweet the sound,
That saved a wretch like me.
I once was lost but now am found,
Was blind, but now I see.

With Love, 

-Kimyatta

Daily Prayer: Thank you Father, for your grace. I understand that you didn't have to give it to me and that you don't have to continue to have mercy on me. I know there is nothing I could ever do to repay you. I love and I am grateful that you love me.  

Scripture to Study: However, I consider my life worth nothing to me, if only I may finish the race and complete the task the Lord Jesus has given me-the task of testifying to the gospel of God's grace. Acts 20:24 

Eve's Other Curse

If I were to ask you what the result was of the fall in the garden of Eden, Eve's curse, you would probably respond "CRAMPS!" And although that is true, there were other parts of the curse that we very seldom hear about. A very large percentage of women desire male attention and companionship and are motivated by it. We dress in a manner to attract it, carry ourselves in a way that seeks it, we perfect skills that our ideal man would seek and overall attempt to make ourselves more desirable for our male counterparts. (Even if it is subtle.) Christian women battle this desire on a different level. Although we are fully aware that our focus should be on God completely, there is still a yearning that we have a hard time shaking. 

Even in our best efforts to convince ourselves that Jesus is all that we need, we still think about a "him" frequently throughout the day. We do it, ladies...well some of us do. Women that are in relationships or married are not exempt. You too were once single and even in the relationships that some of you have, you still may feel that something is lacking...emotionally, physically or spiritually. You desire for the man to do more or be more or just something else but you can't put your finger on it. And it can be very frustrating. Even if you don't desire for him to be more, you long for him. You miss him when he is not around and think about him throughout the day...sometimes excessively.  After praying, studying, and battling with this myself (moment of transparency), the Holy Spirit led me to an "ah ha!" moment. Follow me to Genesis 3:16, sis. This is the verse where God explains to Eve her punishment for being disobedient and eating from the tree of good and evil. 

To the woman he said, "I will make your pains in childbearing very severe; with painful labor you will give birth to children. Your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you." 

Wait, what? For years, I've learned that my period was the result of Eve eating the apple and that we were cursed with cramps and labor pains because of it. But never in all of my years had anyone ever pointed out that the second part of Eve's curse was to desire for a man, her husband, and him ruling over her. I mean, I've heard that the desire for a man was due to the lack of affection growing up, the absence of a father figure, and so on but this... oh, this makes sense. Ladies, the word explains this phenomenon as well in it's true prophetic manner. God knows what we are going through, He made us this way on purpose! Really, God... really?! 

While studying and researching theological history regarding Eve's curse, I happened upon a post written by a lady by the name of Debra. Debra, an evangelist and theologian, explains that the word desire as used in the verse can mean craving or longing. While a woman's desire/craving/longing should be for God, it is misplaced by the desire for a man. Therefore this curse bestowed upon women causes us to worship the men in our lives and look to them for the emotional, spiritual, and physical affirmation that only God can provide. We are seeking for man to meet needs that only God can meet. That is why there is often a lack in relationships. 

The problem becomes one of idolatry, a clear sin according to the word of God. Have you ever gone through a breakup or thought to yourself about your mate, "I couldn't/can't live without him." That is a clear sign of idolatry. Instead of recognizing our sovereign, compassionate, and wise Father as the one in which we should seek for fulfillment, we look for men to fulfill the need and become disappointed when our expectations are not met. If they are met, then this is still a yearning that we should have in seeking intimacy with God. It's the reason why we were created. But instead, because of Eve and her urge to snack on the apple, we struggle and have to focus harder to reach the level of intimacy we were created for, the fulfillment the Father offers, as part of the curse.  

As women we look to men, with high expectations that certain needs are met: “Lead me spiritually.  Provide for me physically.  Support me emotionally.”  You see sis, we don’t need to change our desire or craving.  We simply need to change the object of it. Let's look to God's word to see how He has promised to do these things for us: 

• God, I need spiritual direction and guidance.  “Certainly, child.  I will not leave you as an orphan.  I have sent my Spirit to bring to your remembrance all I have taught you, for apart from me, you can do nothing.”  John 15

• God, I need physical protection and provision.  “You can trust me, child.  Do not worry for your physical needs.  As I provide for the birds and flowers, I will provide for you.”  Matthew 6:26

• God, I need help emotionally.  “Yes, child.  Meditate on all I have declared over you through Christ.  You have received the full rights of a child of the King (Gal. 4:5).  Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.” John 14:27

Women often perceive weakness or strength among each other by how they react when men fail them in these expectations we have set.  What we consider a strong woman is one who doesn't need men.  We consider a weak woman one who continues to follow a sorry man around like a puppy.  But the title of strong or weak in regard to men shouldn't be labels as the desire should be placed in God. In Christ, we have a new and different way altogether.  The woman bought by Christ who is set up as God’s daughter with full access to the King of kings has her needs met in Him. So it doesn't matter if a man fails her or if she doesn't need one, she is strong either way because of the God that is in her. God pours into her. God equips her. God satisfies her emotional, spiritual, and physical needs. So she doesn't have to worry about not needing a man, or being overly desperate for one. Her needs are met and she is content in Jesus despite the circumstances.   

Granted it appears as though this curse doesn't affect all women equally. That would make sense as well seeing as to how menstrual cramps and childbirth, the other curses, also do not affect women equally. Some women suffer a bit greater than others. In the same token, some women have a stronger desire for a man than others. But all of us were created for man, as his help-mate because God didn't think it was good for him to be alone. God’s help and affirmation are real and effective.  He will meet the void in our heart that years of looking to men have never filled and never will. I don't know about you sis but this makes all the sense in the world to me and I am grateful to God for revelation. Knowing is half the battle. Now we have to focus wholeheartedly, ask God to forgive us for expecting from man what only He can give.  

Now to tackle the final part of the curse "he will rule over her", from prayer and personal revelation, I believe that Eve's desire for a man to fulfill things that only God can will not only leave her with a greater battle to gain intimacy with Christ, but she will be more emotional. Her desire for him will rule over her thoughts. Many theologians derive from this sentence that this is where the role of submission comes into play. The woman's desire to run things but that not being God's order. And that very well may be, but I also believe here we are able to explain the emotional attachment that women have that men seemingly do not possess.

It is impossible for us to understand how God's word assures us that He is all we need until we understand what our problem is and why we have it.  It was part of the curse, the part less discussed.  


I love you, 
-Kimyatta

Daily Prayer: Lord, the one thing that I desire all the days of my life is to dwell in Your presence. I know that I may have been misplacing my needs and that You are the only one able to fulfill them. Help me to focus on You more than anything. 

Scripture to Study: One thing I ask of the LORD, this is what I seek: that I may dwell in the house of the LORD all the days of my life, to gaze upon the beauty of the LORD and to seek him in his temple.

Pray for Me...Maybe

How many times do we tell other people to pray for us or tell others that we will pray for them... and don't? Sometimes without thought, we will casually tell people "pray for me" or "I'll pray for you." It's rather common for us to offer prayer as a means of comfort. However sometimes it is not said thoughtfully, it has more so become an automatic response. The matter of prayer should be taken a little more serious than a casual response. 

After browsing social networks lately with various events that have prompted mourning and difficult situations, an outcry for prayer has been present among many. GREAT! Prayer is the best thing we can do in any situation. 
1 Thessalonians 5:17 tells us to pray continually or without ceasing. 

But an old friend, Vera, told me once, "I don't want just anybody praying for me." I never quite understood what she meant but now it's clear. Not everybody is praying for God's will, for your good and some aren't praying at all. 

While asking others to pray for you, do you know what they are praying for, who they are praying to, or if God hears them? You see sis, not everyone has a relationship with God that grants them access to be heard by Him. The relationship is available to all, but not all have it. Psalm 66:18 says "If I had cherished sin in my heart, the Lord would not have listened." Proverbs 28:9 says "If anyone turns a deaf ear to my instructions, even their prayers are detestable." Even those that are capable of praying for you may be praying against God's will, doing you more harm than good.  In addition, Satan hears some of those prayers too and is ready to send distractions and imitations of what we desire to get us off track. Be careful who you let pray for you and who you ask to pray for you. 

The other side of the coin is casually telling someone you will pray for them and not doing so. Maybe it was not intentional. Maybe your day became hectic, maybe more severe matters of the heart came up, or maybe you simply forgot. Telling someone you will pray for them and not doing so is worse than just not saying anything. But it has become the most common thing for us to tell someone, generally because we have nothing more comforting to say. Usually...there isn't anything more comforting to say.  It is a blessing to pray for people (we are called to pray for one another). But it is very important to pray for someone if you say you will. I challenge you to pray with someone the next time they ask you for prayer. Stop what you are doing right then, and pray with them briefly. Or keep a small list with you so that you can remember who to include in your prayers. I have one of these by my bed and keep notes in a notepad app in my phone as well. 

I've also heard people ask why prayer is needed when someone asked for prayer. "How am I suppose to know what to pray for if I don't know what is wrong?" It is not necessary for us to know what the exact issue is in order for us to pray for someone. Trust: when you send the prayer up on someone's behalf, God will know what it is in reference to. It is often good that we don't know what is going on with others when we pray for them because it keeps our flesh from judging them or inserting our own opinions subconsciously. If you are not quite sure what to say but want to pray for someone? Simply say, 

"Lord I ask that you provide comfort, strength, patience, and peace to __________. Please keep him/her in Your will, forgive him/her of their sins and guide their steps. Amen" 

It's as simple as that. And if you can't remember that, just say "Lord, have mercy." If it is sincerely from your heart, God will hear. That simple prayer covers practically everything. Some of the things that God has blessed you with; many of them that you don't even recall praying for are probably the result of someone else praying for you. Return the favor, my love. 

Love you,
- Kimyatta 

Daily Prayer: Lord, teach me how to pray and hear my prayers. Bless those that have prayed for me and allow me to be a blessing by praying for others. 

Scripture to Study: Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective. James 5:16

This post is dedicated to and in celebration of the life of Dr. David L. Boyle. An amazing man of God, the man that baptized me. We all live for the moment he now has, to see the face of the One we love, our Heavenly Father. That is more of a reason to rejoice than to mourn. It's home-going glory... 

Don't Judge Me!

Where did we derive the concept that people can't or shouldn't judge us? Was it from Matthew 7:1 "Do not judge, or you too will be judged." ???


Yeah... I'm sure that is where we got this from. The sentiment "don't judge me" is usually used when someone is aware that the acts they are performing are sinful in nature or may not be upstanding or pleasing but is stated as a reminder that everyone sins. But like we do with many other scriptures, we've taken this one verse and ran with it, disregarding other biblical instruction on judging.  We say "don't judge me" as a defense mechanism when we know we are dead wrong. By reading the entire passage that our coined scripture comes from, we gather that Jesus isn't telling us not to judge, He is telling us not to judge UNJUSTLY. There are several other scriptures in the bible that support us holding each other accountable... or what is known today as judging. Don't believe me? Watch this... 

By interpreting each part of the remainder of that passage, more clarity is brought to the judging issue. If we read further down in Matthew, we will see that Jesus actually continues with saying (Matt 7:2-5), "For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged (if we judge with an evil heart or dark intent, His judgment of us will reflect it; if we judge nobly with honesty and justice, His judgment of us will reflect that, too), and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you (if we use extremes or exaggerations or other nasty means, His judgment of us will reflect it and judging with fairness and compassion will garner likewise in His judgment of us). Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother's eye (point out his sins, "minor" in Jesus' example here) and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye (our own sins, even and especially those we will not admit, magnified by our selective blindness)? How can you say to your brother, 'Let me take the speck out of your eye,' (tell him of his "minor" sins) when all the time there is a plank in your own eye (that there are greater or the same sins in our own lives which we do nothing about or think we are above)? You hypocrite (pointing out the sins of others while acting like we ourselves are above sin), first take the plank out of your own eye (sincerely ask the Lord for forgiveness and learn and live the Truth and Light by His Word), and then you will see clearly (be in a righteous position) to remove the speck from your brother's eye (to judge and to help him out of his bondage to sin)." 

And this isn't it, honey! There are several verses where we are instructed to hold one another accountable. Check some of these scriptures out. No interpretation needed... it's clear: 

• 1 Corinthians 6:2 Or do you not know that the Lord's people will judge the world? And if you are to judge the world, are you not competent to judge trivial cases? 

• Proverbs. 3:21 My son, do not let wisdom and understanding out of your sight, preserve sound judgment and discretion, 

• John 7:24 Stop judging by mere appearances, but instead judge correctly. 

• 1 Corinthians 5:12-13 What business is it of mine to judge those outside the church? Are you not to judge those inside? God will judge those outside. "Expel the wicked person from among you."

• James 5: 19-20 My brothers and sisters, if one of you should wander from the truth and someone should bring that person back, remember this: Whoever turns a sinner from the error of their way will save them from death and cover a multitude of sins. 

• Matthew 18:15 "If your brother or sister sins, go and point out their fault, just between the two of you. If they listen to you, you have won them over." 

• Galatians 6:1 Brothers and sisters, if someone is caught in a sin, you who live by the Spirit should restore that person gently. But watch yourselves, or you also may be tempted. 

Ok, so you may say well what about the woman caught in the act of adultery in John 8:1-11.  The scribes and Pharisees told Jesus that according to the law she was to be stoned to death.  He told them "Let any one of you who is without sin be the first to throw a stone at her." One by one each man dropped his stone and walked away. Jesus was not arguing with the judgment. Nor was Jesus arguing the law or the woman's guilt. Jesus was arguing with their right to execute the woman. Once all the men had dropped their stones Jesus confronted the woman and asked her if any of the men threw a stone at her (condemned her). When she answered "No one, sir", Jesus told her that neither would He - He forgave her of her sin. He did not excuse the sin of adultery, he forgave her of it.  He even corrected her of the sin by telling her "Go and sin no more." In this situation Jesus was not saying they couldn't justly judge her, he was saying they couldn't punish or condemn her. Neither can we. We may point out the error of each other's ways, hold each other accountable justly, but we have no authority for making someone pay for any wrong they have done. God is the ultimate judge. 

It is very important to note here that there is a proper way to do all things. That when holding someone accountable it should be done with grace, in love, and according to the word of God. If you notice someone that is not a child of the Kingdom doing wrong, take it as an opportunity to witness to them. But if they are of the Kingdom, it is your responsibility to remind them of the word of God. If acts of love proceed the correction, the person is much more liable to believe that the correction was done in love. Don't go beating someone over the head with your correction, do it with grace. And if it is not accepted, then pray about it and for them. 

Secondly we must make sure that we sweep around our own front door before trying to sweep around our neighbors. Example: I can't chastise you and tell you what the bible says about adultery, if we both know I'm cheating on my husband too. But if there is a sin that God has delivered me from, then as your sister in Christ, I should hold you accountable, seeking to help you, and witness how I was delivered as evidence. In the same token, you should seek to help me with what you don't battle with as much. It's a two way street. We, as siblings in Christ, are charged to help each other along the narrow path. 

So the next time you feel as though someone is judging you, remember that as your brother or sister in Christ, they are being obedient. As Christians we are suppose to hold each other accountable. Instead of getting an attitude, receive the correction. And don't go around pointing the finger at others. Don't throw stones if you live in a glass house. If you know there are things you need to get under the blood, ask God to work on you before you go trying to work on everybody else. 

With Love, 
-Kimyatta 

Daily Prayer: Lord, teach me the error of my ways and reveal to me my sins and shortcomings. Help me to justly correct and hold my brothers and sister accountable. Soften my heart, Father, so that I am able to receive their guidance in grace and love. 

Scripture to Study: Do not pervert justice; do not show partiality to the poor of favoritism to the great, but judge your neighbor fairly. Leviticus 19:15