American Idol

Are you really worshiping God....or......a god?????


The difference is far more than the size of the letter g. The difference in the two bring about one of the most common acts of sin in society... IDOLATRY! Idolatry is the act of worshiping anything other than the one true God; our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ. It is defined as extreme admiration, love, focus  or reverence for something or someone. WHAT?! We ain't worshiping nothing but God! Right, sis??!! Yeah...well, I hate to burst your bubble but it is happening way more frequently than we are aware or care to admit. Idols are anything that take away or distract us from our devotion to God. Idolatry occurs when we place the dependence of our peace on anything other than God. 

Granted in biblical times, most people worshiped gods or goddesses made of wood, stone, or different metals. One of the most studied forms of idolatry in the bible was the golden calf Aaron made for the Israelites. Despite what the idol was made of, it was still a lifeless object with no character or power. In today's society, an idol can be anything that we place ahead of God in our lives. Anything that tugs at our heart more than God does. Anything that divides our attention to God. Some common idols are possessions, careers, relationships, goals, and addictions. Ironically, many of the things that are idolized are not bad in and of themselves, such as relationships or careers. But the motives behind obtaining them or their priority in our lives can get risky. Scripture tells us that whatever we do, we are to “do it all for the glory of God” (1 Corinthians 10:31), and that we are to serve God only (Deuteronomy 6:13). Unfortunately, God is often nowhere to be found as we zealously pursue our idols. Worse yet, the significant amount of time we often spend in these idolatrous pursuits, leaves us with little or no time to spend with the Lord. In seeking to satisfy the desire for the idol, the glory of God is not being considered. The motive is the satisfaction of man. 

 The Word of God is so very vocal about the danger of idols. Several scriptures warn us about placing anything above God. The first 5 of the Ten Commandments deal with idolatry in some form. Exodus 20:3-6 warns “You shall have no other gods before me.You shall not make for yourself an image in the form of anything in heaven above or on the earth beneath or in the waters below. You shall not bow down to them or worship them; for I, the Lord your God, am a jealous God, punishing the children for the sin of the parents to the third and fourth generation of those who hate me,but showing love to a thousand generations of those who love me and keep my commandments."

The danger in the act of idolatry is that one is usually unaware that it is taking place. They have become so use to it that they don't even realize that they are worshiping the things God has given them, rather than worshiping God. Our obsessive behavior over objects are often masked as drive, determination, or motivation when in fact we have began to desire what is in God's hand, not God. This is idolatry. When we start to put things before God we are sinning against God. Not quite following me? Ask yourself these questions and be honest: 

• Is there anything/anyone you feel you can’t live without?
• Is there anything that takes priority over you spending time with God? (Ever told yourself "I'll pray later" or "I'll go to church next Sunday"?)
• Do you have a dream you would sacrifice everything to realize?
• Is there anything that you think about more in a day than God? 
• Does God truly take first place in your life? Over your job, your children, your money? 

My personal opinion is that the three greatest objects of idolatry are:

1. Preachers (or Spiritual Leaders i.e. Evangelist, Ministers, etc.)
2. Relationships, marriage, or companionship
3. Money

One of the most common forms of idolatry takes place in the church. Ohhhh, the irony. Without even realizing what is occurring so many church members began to see their pastor ....as their god. Now this happens frequently and quite easily. You see, the pastor is bringing forth God's eternal, true, hope-filled word. But the pastor is physically visible. He is tangible. You can touch him, you can see him, you can hug him, he can respond. He is right there right now in the natural. All of those are the very things that we sometimes silently struggle with in our belief or faith in God and long for in our relationship with Him. So the pastor becomes their god, instead of them recognizing him as only a vessel of God. How often do people fall in love with the messenger and not the Message (the Word of God)? So often we won't go to church if "Pastah" isn't there or if "Pastah" isn't preaching. The word and opinion of "Pastah" takes precedent over the word of God in many cases. Some of what "Pastah" says is personal opinion not validated by the word of God but actually holds more weight than what the Bible says. A personal relationship with God is not pursued, while recognition from and loyalty to "Pastah" is heavily sought after. If "Pastah" says to do something, oh, somebody makes sure it gets done! But when God gives directives, confirmation is needed before obedience. But "Pastah" is only a man, honey! He might be a man of God... but he is still just a man! The word comes from God.....not "Pastah"! Please don't get me wrong... the loyalty, love, respect, and reverence to pastors is necessary and appropriate. That's bible! (1 Thess 5:12-13, 1 Corin 9:14, Hebrews 13:17) They are (typically) anointed (wo)men of God, called to bring forth His word and God gives us discrete instruction on the level of respect they are afforded. But the church has a tendency to place them on a throne fit only for the King. This beloved, is idolatry. 

When Moses returned from Mt. Sinai speaking to God, he wore a veil on his face. (Exodus 34:34-35) Some theologians say he did this because God's glory shined so bright. But other theologians make a point that I believe is more accurate. Moses wore a veil because he did not want people to see him, He wanted them to focus on the word God. He covered himself so that he would not be a distraction to the word that God gave him to give. He wanted them to hear God, not see Moses. He was protecting the Israelites against making him an idol by ensuring God received the glory. My, my, my....  

The desire for marriage, companionship and relationships is also a very common form of idolatry. Let's be honest about these things, sis. I'll go first. I remember saying that I couldn't live without someone in particular. May have been a boyfriend, may have been my momma. But I've definitely said it. Maybe you didn't use those exact words. Maybe yours came out more like "I don't know what I would do without you." Mind you, we say that sometimes jokingly but think about it. I've also said that I didn't want to live the rest of my life single. I've been so driven before by the desire for a husband that it consumed my thoughts and influenced my actions. I mean, I have dated people that I thought about 24/7. Well, sis, that didn't leave much more time to think about Jesus. If you don't feel like you can live without something that God has given you or hasn't given you yet, then you are more focused on the creation than the Creator. Many people develop this type of infatuation over a child or a spouse. They come to love the gift from God, more than the God that gave the gift. Single Christian women who desire marriage are at risk of putting their desire for a husband over their desire for Jesus. It is easy to think about having a husband and allow it to drive your actions, thoughts, and motives. When we find our thoughts more occupied with this desire than that of pursuing the purpose that God has for our lives, then we have made the desire for a husband an idol. 

You and I would both openly say that money can't buy the most important things in life. We may not openly admit it but we can probably agree that money is the cause of much of life's stress. The desire for more, the need to have a certain amount to afford life's necessities and pleasures,the struggle to have it. The absence of money...being broke.... can cause enough strife and stress that we lose our faith in God. It can also cause us to compromise on the standard of holiness. We tend to forget that God is our provider and worry over the things that we are having a hard time affording. The lack of money robs so many of their peace and constant thoughts of it are certainly a distraction from God. The pursuit of money becomes more important that pursuing a relationship with God or trusting God as a provider. The security of having financial stability often drives people to hunger for more money and all the things it can buy. More money....more problems. The American obsession with money often supersedes our drive for a life that is pleasing to God in efforts to gain peace and salvation. Instead, the want is for the satisfying feeling that comes from the things money can buy, the opinion others have of those with money, and a lifestyle that is focused very little on glorifying God. Money is definitely an idol of many. Our generation is full of sad quotes that prove this point.

When any object or objective is sought more than the will of God or without regard for God's commandments, then idolatry is occurring. If there is anything that you think of more in a day than God, then idolatry is likely occurring. Remember the only way to repent is to recognize that we are sinning and admit to God so there is no need in hiding. Have you made god's of things and put more trust in them than the faith you have in God? If you lost your job would you trust God in guiding you and making a way or do you feel as though you couldn't make it if you lost your job? What if your spouse left you?   Is it your car that gets you to work safely or is it God? Do you believe God will make a way out of no way or do you feel like you can't make it if so and so doesn't help you out? What, my dear, are you worshiping? 

With love, 
-Kimyatta

Daily Prayer: God, please reveal those things in my heart that take the place of You. Forgive me for placing anything before You. Lord, I worship You because You are God, and God alone. Please send the Holy Spirit to teach me Your ways and correct me in the error of my own. 

Scripture to Study: Put to death therefore what is earthly in you: sexual immorality, impurity, passion, evil desire, and covetousness, which is idolatry. Colossians 3:5

For in Him all things were created: things in heaven and on earth, visible and invisible, whether thrones or powers or rulers or authorities; all things have been created trough him and for Him. He is before all things, and in Him all things hold together. Colossians 1:16-17 

Golden

The tabernacle... a tent, place of dwelling, or sanctuary. The Bible tells us that it was a sacred place where God chose to meet His people, the Israelites, while they aimlessly wandered around the desert for 40 years. The tabernacle would contain the Ark of the Covenant (the commandments) and it would be where the people would come together to worship God, offer sacrifices, and dwell in the Lord's presence. God gave Moses specific instructions on every aspect of the construction of the tabernacle. Sis, I'm talking about exactly how long the cloth would be used for curtains, what to use to dye them, what color they should be, and so on!! The directions were particular to EVERY ELEMENT of the tabernacle. God was so thorough in this revelation to Moses, that He even gifted certain men to build the tabernacle and told him where to get the resources from. (And we tend to doubt the details in His plan for our life??...but anyway.....)

A reoccurring element in the construction of the tabernacle was hammered gold. Gold was beaten into thin plates to be used as a covering for other elements of the tabernacle. It was fashioned into thin sheets and threaded into the garments worn by the high priest. The highly studied Lampstand which was the only source of light for the inner court of the tabernacle was made of gold. The two cherubim (the little angelic baby looking sculptures) that were to be placed on the altar were made of gold. A sacred bowl used for things such as the drink offering was also made of gold. But you see... in all of these directions sis, God was specific to point out that the gold was "hammered gold". Beaten gold. Wonder why? Maybe the hammering of gold made it easier to work with. Gold that is beaten can be shaped and formed into practically anything.

The gold used on God's altar, in order to be good enough... had to be beaten, molded, hammered, heated. The gold that has been commonly used as an adornment since the beginning of time is typically beaten, molded, hammered, heated. One of the characteristics of gold is that it is malleable. This means that it is capable of being hammered or pressed permanently out of shape without breaking or cracking. It will bend, but not break. Its capable of changing forms and becoming something new. Gold maintains value because it is resistant to oxidative corrosion. It doesn't rust when exposed to the elements. When subjected to water and wind, it maintains strength and shine. It is also considered ductile or able to be deformed without losing toughness. The melting point of gold is very low, making it easily used but also requiring it to be reinforced if brought anywhere near heat. But gold is one thing that consistently maintains value. It's mined, sold, melted, reshaped, and reformed... and continues to be used. You see... those things that are golden are beautiful, decorative, versatile, and valuable. 

And you, my dear... are golden.

Surely you've wondered why it seems like the better you think you are doing, the harder times get. Or the closer you get to God, the more things start falling apart. Or maybe you've just wondered why you are going through hell? Its getting hot, ain't it? Well..... like the gold that God instructed to be used in the temple, we have to be hammered or beaten into a form that can be used. The beating process of gold makes it flexible. The more we go through, the more flexible we are because we know how things can change at any minute and in order to survive we must adapt. Succumbing to the struggles of life conditions us for the battles we may face in life. In order for God to use us, we have to be capable of being heated, beaten, molded, shaped, thinned out or worn thin. In order to present ourselves on the altar before God, we may have to take a beating.  But you see sis, gold is soooo strong and pure that it takes the beating and remains resilient. It doesn't lose worth and it is still very valuable. No matter what you put gold through, it still shines. 

I want God to make me into exactly what He needs in order for Him to use me. If this entails taking a beating, then I understand that like those things used in the tabernacle, I too can be used for the Kingdom! Don't give up. You may be beaten but you are not broken. A single bar of gold, after being beaten can be stretched over 50 yards without breaking. Gold that has been heated and processed is also more appealing to spectators. All that you have been through, will make your witness to others more relevant. Your testimony will be more appealing because the tests you have faced will equip you to relate to others. Consumers are more likely to purchase gold that has been shaped. Those things that we face that seem difficult are preparing us to be used by God. Recall that the melting point of gold is very low so it must be reinforced if brought anywhere near heat. Sis, during our struggles, when things start heating up, trust that God is near. He is reinforcing you. He said in His word that He would never leave nor forsake us. (Deuteronomy 31:6) 

Take pride in all that you have been through because if you went THROUGH it, that means that you came out. If you are facing difficult situations or things are heating up, don't lose faith in God because chances are He is closer now than ever. Job 23:10 says "But He knows, the way that I take; when He has tested me, I will come forth as gold."  Like a goldsmith, when things start to heat up, He is near so that He can mold you into whatever the situation is making you. Despite what you are going through or have been through, understand that God will and can use it for your good. SHINE, SIS! You're being molded for His purpose. 

With love, 
-Kimyatta

Daily Prayer: Lord, help me to stay strong in my time of struggles. I know that all things happen for the good of those that love You. Please make me new and make me into whatever I need to be so that you can use me. 

 Scripture to study: And I will put this third into the fire, and refine them as one refines silver, and test them as gold is tested. They will call upon my name, and I will answer them. I will say, ‘They are my people’; and they will say, ‘The Lord is my God.’” Zechariah 13:9

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Live Your Praise

I use to think that God was not pleased with me unless I was in the act of praying, studying the bible, witnessing, or at church. You know... doing "sanctified" stuff. Surely He wasn't sitting in heaven smiling at me while I'm out to eat with friends, telling lame jokes and laughing, enjoying my favorite foods, watching a movie, or getting the best sleep I've ever had in my life. I mean... those aren't "Christian" activities. But truth is, the most consistent way that we can give God praise is through enjoying life and the things that He has given us. It is not the enjoyment of life that puts us in danger of placing things before God, it is when the things that bring joy are more important than God. 

Think about it this way, the best way for someone to show you their appreciation for a gift you've given them, is when they use it and like it. Imagine spending hours searching for the perfect gift for a friend or relative. Let's say that it is a bracelet. Well every time you see them they have the bracelet on. Or maybe it was a crock pot and they've been cooking in it every since you gave it to them. Nothing brings you more joy than to give someone a gift and they absolutely love it and have use for it. Well... God has given us not only our lives but everything that we have in it as gifts to be used and enjoyed. 1 Timothy 6:17 reminds us to put our hope in God, who provides us with everything for our enjoyment. So how do you think it reflects when we sit around moping and complaining about the most minimal things? We appear unappreciative. What if God said, "Oh, you don't like it (life)? Well I'll take it back!" What if He stopped giving you gifts because you don't enjoy or appreciate them? We often get so caught in trying to make a living that we forget to enjoy life. 

In efforts of living lives that are pleasing to God, we tend to focus more on refraining from sin than enjoying God's wonderful works. As we strive to live holy, we confine ourselves to a set of rules that distract us for enjoying life itself. This is especially prevalent with those that are fresh in their walk with the Lord, those that have rededicated their lives to Christ, or those that have developed a commitment to religion and but not necessarily a relationship with Christ. Sometimes we are so focused on the rules of religion that we forget to actually live. When we go through our lives focusing more on whether or not we are sinning, we take the joy out of living. The word says that all have fallen short. Paul told the Romans that even when he wanted to do right, wrong was still in him.  Trust that if you are studying the word and allowing the Holy Spirit into your life, you will be directed towards godly wisdom to help you stay away from sin.  One pastor commented that people can be so heavenly that they aren't any good on earth. :) But God has given us instructions regarding sin to keep us from experiencing harm and sin induced suffering so that we may enjoy life. How ironic that sin is often committed in efforts to enjoy life but God warns us against sinning so that we can enjoy life! Jesus said in John 10:10, “I have come that you may have life and have it to the full.” Solomon said in Ecc. 2:24-26 that we are to “eat and drink and find satisfaction in our work. This too is from the hand of God for without Him who can eat or find enjoyment? To the man who pleases Him, God gives wisdom, knowledge and happiness.”

God wants us to enjoy this life that we have here on earth. Granted everyday won't be roses and sunflowers but I promise that even on your worse day there is something you can find to praise God for in simply enjoying it. How many times have you caught your favorite things on sale or was able to just relax to watch your favorite show? God knows what makes you happy and He wants you to be that way. And back to gift giving: if you gave someone a gift and they enjoyed it, wouldn't you be more apt to giving them gifts more often? Just by living and enjoying life you are showing God with your actions, your fruit, that you are appreciative of Him. 

In addition, as a Christian, our happiness and enjoyment of life is a witness of God's joy to people. People tend to think that Christians don't enjoy life, that we don't have fun, and that a life lived with God is boring and dull. Why would someone want to dedicate their lives to God if you dedicated yours and now you are miserable? Walking around looking pitiful, cooped up in the house never going anywhere but church, trying to hide from anything that ain't holy. That isn't an effective witness, sis. Show the world that God gives you joy! 

God created Adam and Eve to rule over the earth. To work and take care of all of His other creations. So by enjoying life and being productive daily, you are actually being obedient to God. Jesus felt it was so important that we not worry and enjoy life that he blatantly lays out instructions for such in Matthew 6:25-34. Jesus tells us not to worry about tomorrow, what we will eat, drink, or wear. He comforts us in saying that He knows what we need. He is telling us to stop worrying about stuff, trust Him to handle all of that and just enjoy life. The joy of the Lord should be your strength!  

Don't get me wrong, time with God is essential. Your life of praise and worship is important to maintain a relationship with our Savior. But there are things that you do on a daily basis, chores, that are also directly linked to God's purpose for you and the calling on your life. These things bring God praise because you are allowing His will to be done.  Whether it is working a job to provide for a family, spending time with friends to foster relationships and share God's love, or working out to ensure that you are a healthy vessel for His use, God wants you to enjoy your to-do list as much as possible.  It may be helping your child with his/her homework or cooking dinner, lending an ear to a coworker, maybe even going to work to have the funds to help build the kingdom or provide shelter for your family. It could be being a suitable helper for the husband God has blessed you with. These are all things that give God praise because in doing these everyday chores you are fulfilling the will of God. The joy that God gives us to enjoy life comes from peace beyond understanding. It is the realization that despite what happens, all things work together for the good of those that love the Lord and are called according to His purpose. It is contentment in what you have because you know the Lord will supply all of your needs according to His riches. You don't have to worry because you trust that God will give you the desires of your heart if they align with His will so you can enjoy the gift of life. 

All of these things and so many more are obtained through a consistent prayer life, studying the word, and building upon your relationship with God. That is the only way that you know of the promise, that is the only way that the Holy Spirit can enter your heart and give you the peace and guidance necessary to enjoy life. We celebrate the gift of life when a baby enters the world. Let's celebrate everyday that we awake and are able to open the gift again! Live a little, sis. Give God glory with your life! We all want to enjoy life... I just wanted to remind you that God wants you to enjoy life too! 

I love you!,
-Kimyatta

Daily Prayer: Lord, please help me to cast my cares on You so that I may enjoy life. Help me to see the beauty in life and give You glory by enjoying the blessings that You have bestowed upon me. 

Scripture to Study: Now unto him who is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that worketh in us... Ephesians 3:20

How to Love...

No girlfriend, not the Lil Wayne song... 

Many of us don't really know how to love or what it is. I know I know, we've been "lovin" all of our lives right? Shoooot, we go way back to giving out Valentine Day cards in Kindergarten. (Some of y'all might have to think back a little bit further than others.) I digress, but the easier of the two questions to answer is what love is. Webster defines love as an intense feeling of deep affection, a deep romantic or sexual attachment to someone, a personified figure of love, often represented as cupid, a friendly form or attraction to. The definition goes on and on through different explanations. However, not one time is God mentioned. Can you believe that? Webster had the audacity to mention Cupid but not God!!! That alone is indicative of the skewed perception we have developed of love. Understanding love is important because it is one of the most important commandments. Matthew 22:37-39, Jesus explains that of the greatest commandments the first is to love God with all of our heart, mind, and souls and secondly that we should love one another as we love ourselves. This is difficult to do if we do not truly understand the concept of love as God intends. 

What is Love? 

Well, sis, GOD IS LOVE. 1 John 4:8 clearly states, "Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love." So in order for us to know what love is, we must know God. They are one in the same. Building a relationship with, and studying the Word of God for who He is, is the first step to knowing what love is. We have to know who God is. I'll assume we are all on the same page there. So let's dig into the concept of love. It is difficult for us to understand the concept of love because we are not very knowledgeable regarding the principalities in which it was founded.  The first misconception about love is that it is based on a feeling, attraction, or an action. When we go to explain the love we have for someone or something, it is based on how the person treats us, what has been done for us, or how the object makes us feel. If we review the verse previously stated, we can see that there is not an action involved. According to the word, love is not what God does, it is what He is! Therefore, love is not based upon an implied action here. Are there people in your life that you would still "love" if they could never do another thing for you? Be honest with yourself. If your love would leave with whatever actions caused it, then that, my dear is not love. 

The type of love that we display is mercurial, meaning it has the capacity to change from day to day, moment to moment, or situation to situation. We are inept to fall out of love or withhold love based on conditions. Our love is conditional. It is founded upon the conditions that are present. God's love is the exact opposite. It is unconditional. Paul rhetorically asked the Romans "Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? Shall trouble or hardship or persecution or famine or nakedness or danger or sword?" (Romans 8:35) Sis, there is nothing that will make God stop loving us. The closest example that I have seen to unconditional love is that in which a parent has for a child. Despite what the child does, who they become, how many times they mess up, the parent still loves the child. The love for the child is without condition; it doesn't matter whether times are good or bad or what happens the love is still present. It is not so much based on a circumstance. This is similar to the love God has for us, but nothing actually compares. 

How to Love

John 3:16 says, "For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life."  To turn love into an action that we are able to express we must know how to do so. This scripture gives us direction in that God defined his loved in that He gave something (or Someone). Love is evident in what we give. The greatest love as displayed here was a sacrificial gift. It was given without the expectation of receiving something in return.  We may give or provide for someone we love, as long as it doesn't hinder us...as long as we don't have to sacrifice our own desires. Wow... Keep in mind that these are material possessions that you are withholding from those you love for your own comfort, when God gave His son. In essence, this type of expression says, I love you as long as it doesn't cost me anything. The Word of God tells us however to love each other as He has loved us. Put yourself in Abraham's shoes. (Genesis 22:1-9) What if God told you to sacrifice your only son? Would you question Him? Would you hesitate? I mean, you love your son too much right? Abraham didn't. He prepared his son to be sacrificed without questioning or doubting God because he loved God more and understood that His expression of that love was in his sacrifice. But just as He placed his son on the sacrificial altar, God stopped Him. Abraham had been tested and He found favor with God. He was willing to sacrifice something he loved to be obedient to God. God doesn't even require you to sacrifice those you love, but usually things that can be replaced or acts as free as hugs as expressions of love.

Romans 5:8 says, "But God commendeth his love towards us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us." Hold on while I shout.......!!! Not only is the love that God has for us sacrificial or without expectation, but it is given in spite of. Although we were sinners and undeserving, He loved us anyway. The word says God has loved us with an everlasting love. (Jeremiah 31:3) This is the very essence of a display of unconditional love. Love is given regardless of how you view a person, what they are capable of doing for you, or how they make you "feel". Despite how undeserving you believe the person is of your love, you are still called to love them. Love, like many other Christian attributes, is based on a decision more than a feeling. God loves us even when we don't deserve it and have wronged Him. In our pursuit of righteousness, we are to do the same for one another. Most folks haven't betrayed us nearly as much as we have betrayed God. 

Matthew 4:43-48 calls our culture out on the practice of the saying love your neighbor and hate your enemies. But Jesus says here that that doesn't make you special. He actually says in verse 46, "If you love those who love you, what reward will you get? Are not even tax collectors doing that?" In essence, He is saying that even the worse of the worse (tax collectors were pretty bad back then) love people who love them, but as Christians we are called as always to go a step further. We are to love those that persecute us, that talk about us behind our backs, that are low down to us. If given the opportunity we are to help them and at every opportunity we are to pray for them. That's tough, huh? It may take some practicing but God can soften your heart. He can assist you in not speaking a bad word about those that have wronged you even when you are fully capable of doing so. This pleases God and brings Him glory; when we began to love people as He loves us. Remember sis, it isn't optional. We are talking about eternal life.

More discrete instruction on love is given in one of the most widely used passages regarding love. 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 is a clear list of instructions on how to love and just as with all other scriptures we are not at liberty to select which ones we will abide by or which ones will relate to us. Love is all of these things, not just the ones we feel we are capable of doing. 

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. ⁵ It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. ⁶ Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. ⁷ It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. ⁸ Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.

Here is my explanation of this verse: Love doesn't get mad when others don't do what we want, when we want them to (it's patient). Love is nice, it doesn't have a smart mouth or an attitude all the time (it's kind). Love is not jealous of what people they love have (envious), it doesn't brag on what it has done for it's loved ones (boastful), and it isn't so prideful that it can't ask for help from those it loves (proud). Love doesn't talk behind people's backs or lie to them (dishonor), it doesn't look for how it can benefit from the relationship (self-seeking), and it doesn't stay mad or get mad at any little thing (easily angered). And when someone does mess up, although love might remember it, they won't bring it up in the future because they aren't keeping record of it. Love doesn't purposely hurt others or cheat, it looks forward to doing the right thing. It looks out for others, it trust that they will do the right thing no matter what, and if they don't do the right thing, loves keeps on loving. Love doesn't stop loving...ever. 

I have sacrificed and given up things that I worked hard for for someone I love. Yes, it was difficult but I knew that it was what God told me to do. I've actually sacrificed quite a bit and you know what... everything that I gave up, has come back to me greater than before. To God be the glory! For the sake of love for God and love for others, be obedient to Him. Not all love will require you to sacrificially give, but most of it will.

Soooooo.... about all of that love you have??? Is it really love or is it lust? Lust looks a lot like love but it is actually based on attraction, a feeling, or an action. Ironically the very things we tend to define love with, are the adjectives used to define lust. Lust is a tool of the enemy to deceive us. His ultimate goal is for us to only be in lust with Jesus and each other so that we are not in the will of our Father. Remember, lust changes, love doesn't. Lust is based on circumstances and emotions, love isn't. Love is not easy by far, but it is possible and it is required to get to heaven! If you'll recall earlier we discussed how Jesus said this is one of the greatest commandments. It's pertinent that we get it right. Our lives depend on it. The easiest way for us to show the world the love of God is for us to love one another. Like...really love.  Remember love is a decision. Lust is more of a feeling. 

NOTE: It is important to add that many Christians have a common misconception about love that coincides with the level of relational interaction. I have encountered those that believed that I did not love them because I chose not to deal with them. Just because you are a Christian, commanded to love all, doesn't mean you also have to be a push over. You can certainly love someone unconditionally, just as Jesus does, without dealing with them personally in a close proximity. Jesus loved everyone, but not everyone was chosen to walk closely along side Him. Not everyone that Jesus loved was chosen as a disciple. There is a difference in loving someone and trusting them, and we are given godly wisdom to decipher between the two. So be wise, just because you love someone, it does not entitle them to run a muck in your life, making you quick to anger and pulling you away from love Himself; God. There are people that I do not talk to daily or would go out of my way to spend an excessive amount of time with, but I love them.  Love keeps no ill will in the heart. With Him, it's possible to love everyone. I've been there. We are called to love everyone, not like them! :) It's not an option, sis. It's a commandment. Now stop being nasty to people and do better!

With love (and I mean it),
-Kimyatta 

Daily Prayer: God, please soften my heart and teach me how to love others as You love me. Show me the error of my ways and help me to be an example of love to everyone. Give me the patience to love others unconditionally and forgive me for those I've failed to love thus far.

Scripture to Study: The goal of this command is love, which comes from a pure heart and a good conscience and a sincere faith. 1 Timothy 1:5

Forget Your Feelings

On any given day, if you asked me what I desire most, I would probably answer to sit at the feet of the Lord and bask in His presence. I want to please God. I want to hear Him say someday, "Servant, well done."

But I won't lie and tell you that everyday, I feel like praising God. There are days that I literally wake up sleepy. Not ready to tackle the day or face whatever is ahead. I'd prefer to just go back to sleep because I'm just that tired. There are Sundays when I don't feel like going to church and if I am PMS'ing I certainly don't feel like serving with anybody's ministry. To be honest honey, there are some days that I don't feel like praying when I wake up, studying the word or meditating. Sometimes I don't feel like being nice to people, helping them out, giving them a ride, being a listening ear or whatever. 

Maybe you've never had a day when you're running late, have a million things to do, and places to go. But I have and I know that on those days, I feel like I just don't have time to sit down and study the Bible. Sometimes there are so many other things on our mind that we are trying to deal with or figure out that we just don't feel like we have the energy to spend time in prayer. We figure we can't concentrate enough to meditate anyway. We don't feel like praising. We're so tired that it would be a halfhearted effort and God knows our heart, right? But these are the very times that we should push ourselves and do it anyway. There are times when we know the right thing to do but those feelings take over. It's nothing new sis. Paul said in Romans I do not understand what I do. For what I want to do I do not do, but what I hate to do. And if I do what I do not what to do, I agree that the law is good. 

What we have to understand is that we don't praise God, worship God, or obey God because we feel like it. Feelings change. Feelings are based on our flesh and the Word tells us that we are to die to our flesh. (Romans 8:13-14) We praise, worship and obey because He is God! This isn't a matter of what we want to do, sis. It is a matter of what we were created for; to worship and be obedient. It is a matter of what we have to do! The KJV of Isaiah 43:21 says,"This people have I formed for myself; they shall show forth my praise". John 14:23 says, “Anyone who loves me will obey my teaching. My Father will love them, and we will come to them and make our home with them." Look, I can't speak for you sis, but I certainly want God to make His home with me! 

There are numerous other accounts in the Bible were God's faithful servants who were obedient despite their feelings were blessed. Job probably didn't feel like doing anything anymore. Surely Moses didn't feel like leading such hard headed, ungrateful people.  And I know Jacob didn't feel like working seven more years to marry Rachel. My pastor, Pastor Raley, reminds us often that we shouldn't wait until we feel something to praise God, we should just praise Him until we feel something. 

There are things in life that God has instructed me to do that I really didn't want to do, but I did it because the last thing I want to do is disobey my Father. I want Him to be pleased with me. Pastor Donnie McClurkin once said that you don't obey God because you want to, you do it because you have to. He went on to say, "How many times did your momma tell you to do something and you didn't want to, but you did it anyway." Sure there were times when she told you to wash dishes or take out the trash. You rolled your eyes and mumbled under your breath... but you did it. God doesn't really care about you complaining, He doesn't care how you feel about what He has instructed. Girl... HE IS GOD! Do what He says despite how you feel or whether or not you "think" it's the best thing. 

You can't see what God can see. He is alpha and omega, the beginning and the end. So while you are deciding whether to follow His instructions based on your own knowledge, feelings, perception, intuition, or understanding, He has decided based on a known outcome ......that He created. 

I will say that I am at a point where I am hungry for God's presence, I am thirsty for His guidance, and I seek to be in constant contact with Him. It's just that I don't feel like working at it every second of every day. There are times during the day or on particular days where I push myself to read and study the word. I've even set alarms on my phone that notify me hourly with a note that reminds me to think about Jesus. By now, praying has become second nature but I certainly had times when I woke up, showered, got ready and thought to myself "Did I pray this morning?" It took me pushing my feelings aside and building habits of obedience. We must practice being obedient despite how we feel based on our faith in God. Your faith in Him leads you to obey despite what situations look like or how you feel because you know He has your best interest at heart. 

So despite how you feel, what you want to do, or what you think is right... your best bet will ALWAYS be to obey what God says. 

You might not feel like praying with others... (James 5:16)
You might not feel like feeding the homeless..... (Matthew 25:40) 
You might not feel like refraining from having sex with that man that isn't your husband..... (1 Thessalonians 4:3–4)
You might not feel like being single...... (1 Corinthians 7:34-40)
You might not feel like being kind and compassionate.... (Ephesians 4:32) 
You might not feel like reading the bible today.... (Joshua 1:8)

Think of it like this.. what if God didn't feel like doing any of the things He has done for you? What if Jesus hadn't of been crucified because He didn't feel like it? Sis, your reward is being stored in heaven. God sees your obedience and your sacrifices. He sees when you are serving others and striving to trust Him more than your feelings and flesh. Stop being hard headed and trust God's infinite wisdom over your simple little feelings. The last thing you want is for God to place you in time out....forever! 

With Love, :) 
-Kimyatta 

Daily Prayer: Heavenly Father, please help me to die to the flesh and disregard my feelings. Guide me in Your way and instruct me in Your will. Forgive me for being disobedient and give me the strength to obey despite how I feel. 

Scripture to Study: "For if you love Me, you will keep My commandments." John 14:15

While You Wait Part 2

As I alluded to in the previous post, the wait is a test of our faith. When we know that God has promised us something, we want it NOW! But during the period between revelation and reception, we are given the opportunity to show God that we trust His word. We are able to work towards the promise and practice contentment. This is an example of how to "work your faith". When you truly believe that what God has in store for you is coming, you take steps that may not make sense to others. You make decisions and operate as if you are getting ready. Those on the outside looking in will have a hard time understanding your actions. Don't let them discourage you! This is called radical faith and it pleases God. You are taking whatever steps necessary to get ready for what God has for you. Here are some examples of what radical faith might look like:

• Waiting on a husband? - Start practicing home management like cooking regularly, eliminating debt, and personal grooming (You wanna be fine for your man, don't you sis?) 
• Waiting on a baby? - Prepare yourself physically to carry a child and practice better time management to prepare for having to get two people ready instead of one. 
• Waiting on a promotion? - Research what the job entails, dress the part, ask for more responsibilities to prepare yourself.
• Waiting on a new job? - Update your resume', have interview attire ready, and start practicing interview questions. 
• Waiting on a financial breakthrough? - Tithe on the amount you are expecting, sow in faith, write out a budget for the increase to prepare proper stewardship over the money. 
• Waiting on a new house? - Buy a new comforter set or bathroom decor, maybe just a new welcome mat and put it up.

There is nothing worse than opportunity knocking at your door and you aren't home or dressed to open the door. There is no such thing as being too prepared. To continue practicing after you have prepared will ensure that you have built a habit and will make you more comfortable when you receive it. By progressively making strides towards whatever it is you are waiting for you renew your hope. You are also showing God that you are fully confident in Him. When someone is confident in you, doesn't it kinda encourage you to perform to the best of your abilities? When people believe we can do something, we do our best to get it done. Well, God is that way too. 

Sometimes the wait is prolonged because of our very own disobedience. It may be a tough pill to swallow, but our inability or unwillingness to follow God's ordered steps can sometimes make us have to wait longer for "it" than He initially planned. The choices that we make during the waiting process can directly affect the time of the wait. If God has revealed a five point to-do list and you knock it out, your "it" may come a little quicker than if you procrastinated in getting it done. Like the Israelites who wandered around the desert for 40 years, we sometimes take an altered path outside of the directives God has given us and lead ourselves into the wilderness. (Then complain and cry about it... even though it is our own fault we are lost. Just being honest, sis.) Hebrews 3:16, 18-19 says "Who were they who heard and rebelled? Were they not all those Moses led out of Egypt? … And to whom did God swear that they would never enter his rest if not to those who disobeyed? So we see that they were not able to enter, because of their unbelief". You may not have reached the promise land yet, because you are still wandering around in the wilderness. We often fail to obey God's instructions because we simply don't believe that it's going to happen. In other instances, we are scared of sacrificing comfort to follow God's orders. And lastly, it's possible that we just don't think we can accomplish the task or we deserve the "it" God has revealed. Remember sis, God will equip us to complete whatever task He sets before us and He wants you to have His best. God purposefully gives us task to complete that we are not qualified to do on our own or items that many wouldn't think we deserve so that when we receive it there is no other explanation than BUT GOD! This way, He is certain to get the glory.

You might not have "it" yet, because you haven't received it. Yep, you've been waiting, you are prepared but you weren't expecting. Sounds silly, huh? Sometimes "it" will show up and we don't even recognize it! The Word says "See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the desert and streams in the wasteland." (Isaiah 43:19)  A dear friend told me recently "You ain't waiting on God, He's waiting on you!" Do what needs to be done so that you can receive all that the Lord has for you, honey. Then wait... expectantly! It may not come from the direction that you anticipated, it may not come at the time you thought it would, it may not look like you envisioned. But that might be your "it", sis! All you have to do, is claim it. Open your heart and your eyes. Pray for God to give you a spirit of discernment so that you are able to recognize when He blesses you with answers to your prayers. Seek God for a plan and get on it. If you have completed His orders, stay faithful, consistent and be on the lookout. 

God uses the wait to protect us from sinning sometimes. Remember me asking why you wanted "it" anyway? Well sometimes we focus so much on the "it" that it becomes an idol. We think about it more than we do God. We are determined to do what we have to do so that we can get "it" and if having faith in God is going to accomplish that then, okay. Whoa sis...check the motives on that!! If you are thinking about the "it" more than you think about God, then it's borderline idolatry and the Word warns us of this extensively. God may not give us something that He knows will distract us from Him or negatively impact our relationship with Him. He loves us enough to protect us from ourselves. Can't go to church because you signed up to work overtime to be able to afford that car you were waiting on? No time to study the Word because you're chillin with that man you've been waiting on? Or even worse maybe the man you've been waiting on is now in your life...but he wants to have sex before marriage? Are you exhibiting ungodly behavior or doing things you know aren't Christ-like to advance the corporate ladder and get that promotion you've been waiting for? Well, God knows these things may happen and He is a very jealous God. If there is a chance your "it" will accidentally become your god (notice the lowercase g), God may very well protect you by withholding your it. Your wait will strengthen your relationship with Him to ensure it's a bond that can't be easily broken or replaced. 

If you are anything like me, you are probably wondering why God would reveal something to us, but not tell us when, where, how, or maybe even who! I believe that there are occasions that if we knew the finite details of God's plan, we would impede on His sovereignty. We would attempt to take matters into our own hands to speed up the process. In doing so, we would skip out on the development process and possibly put ourselves in danger. We would cut the prep period short and enter into the promise underdeveloped. Practice makes perfect and the more you work on the things He has revealed the more prepared for "it" you'll be. By rushing things, we would accidentally tell God, "You taking too long, I got this." You would cease to operate your faith and trust in God by attempting to make things happen on your own. You would take away the glory that is rightfully God's. Yep, by disrespecting the timeline that God has set for us, we are taking away the glory that He gets IF the "it" happens to come to pass. 

God is the clock-maker. He knows exactly how the clock works. He existed before time and exist yet and still beyond time. God's plan is perfect and His promise is true. Imagine how much sweeter it will be after you've waited for "it" for so long. Imagine how much more appreciative you will be. Imagine how pleased you will make your Father in heaven when you trust Him and take Him at His word. Imagine how much glory it will bring God when the world knows the certainty of those that wait on the Lord. Imagine how much more peace you will have knowing you've prepared and practiced for your "it". Stop watching the clock, sis. As you are going about the business of Christ, trust me... He will be taking care of your business. Don't rush Him. Wait.

Keep in mind that some of the promises, some of the rewards are being stored in heaven. There may be somethings that you are waiting on that God wants to personally hand you Himself when you get to Kingdom. Don't be discouraged with a man made, cultural timeline. This world and everything in it will fade away but those things that are stored in heaven are eternal. Live daily seeking God's calling and purpose for you. We all want to hear Him say "Servant, well done." He will give us the desires of our hearts if they align with His will, but the word doesn't say when and if He doesn't, He is still God! Besides....the ultimate wait my dear, is the one for the return of our Savior. It will all be worth it. 

Love you, 
Kimyatta

Daily Prayer: God thank you for making me wait. I understand that although sometimes I get impatient, I trust that You know what is best. Thank you for giving me time and training me to be a proper steward over all that You have planned for me. 

Below I have listed several scriptures that help me out when I'm getting impatient. You may want to bookmark them or refer back to this post when you need the encouragement as well. I know it get's tough, sis. Let's pray for each others peace. 

• Isaiah 40:31 - but those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint. 
• Psalm 40:1 - I waited patiently for the Lord; He turned to me and heard my cry.
• Psalm 25:21 - May integrity and uprightness protect me, because my hope, Lord, is in You. 
• Isaiah 30:18 - Yet the Lord longs to be gracious to you; therefore he will rise up to show you compassion. For the Lord is a God of justice. Blessed are all who wait for him!
• Psalm 5:3 - In the morning, Lord, You hear my voice; in the morning I lay my request before You and wait expectantly. 
• Hosea 12:6 - But you must return to your God; maintain love and justice and wait for your God always. 
• Lamentations 3:24 - I say to myself, "The Lord is my portion; therefore I will wait for him." 
• Psalm 38:15 - Lord, I wait for you; you will answer, Lord my God. 
• Psalm 130:5 - I wait for the Lord, my whole being waits, and in His word I put my hope. 
• Psalm 33:20 - We wait in hope for the Lord; He is our help and our shield. 
• Romans 8:25 - But if we hope for what we do not yet have, we wait for it patiently. 
• Psalm 27:14 - Wait for the Lord; be strong and take heart and wait for the Lord. 

While You Wait Part 1

Time flies when you're having fun, huh? Well it definitely doesn't fly when you are waiting on something. Actually it seems to stop. Well.. your time seems to while everyone else's is moving right along and honey that will frustrate the strongest of saints. I don't know about you, sis. But patience is something I struggle with. It is something that I am working on, praying for and learning how to apply. I heard a minister say recently that praying for patience was risky because if God gives you patience that may mean you have to wait longer for what your "it" is. I agree. But I also believe with my whole heart that the God that created time, knows better than anyone when it is time. We frequently comment that "all things happen in God's time." And despite how convincingly we make the statement, we are not always okay with that. You're human sis, I know you get impatient too. Waiting on that check, house, new car, husband, promotion, new job, baby, opportunity, revelation or peace...OMG! When, Lord?!!! 

Whatever it is you are waiting for, you want it now! I'll be honest, there are some things that I want NOW as well. But I know that the reality is that I very well may not be ready for them or prepared for all that these things may bring. I understand that I need to prepare, practice, and plan for whatever my "it" is and when God, the Giver of all things, feels I am ready, it'll come. God's time is not like man's. Why do you want it now anyway? Is it to make life easier on yourself, to make yourself happy, or to fulfill God's purpose? Check your motives instead of the clock. While we only see the clock on the wall, the sunset or sunrise, the calendar numbers change... He see's the beginning, the end, and an entire picture of how all aspects surrounding every situation will be effected. While we may only be thinking about our position or promotion, God is strategically arranging things so that they will work together for the good of all of those that love the Lord! (Romans 8:28)

Although I know these things, there are still times when the wait is a bit difficult. The anticipation of what is to come can cause us girls a mountain of stress because we are wired to over-analyze situations. Stress is brought about when we are not aware of what is going on or we feel that we are not in control. I certainly understand and have too laid in my bed for hours unable to sleep thinking about "when". This can be especially frustrating when God has shown you or confirmed the "it" to you, but there is not a direct timeline available. Or maybe you thought there was a designated time and it has come and gone. Chances are that designated time was not God's time therefore it was irrelevant. Remember sis, anytime we feel anxiety because of lack of control or uncertainty about what is going on during the wait or why, we are not fully trusting God. We want to know what day, what time, what hour, and what minute. It is very easy to exclaim that we have faith, but worrying (caused by thinking too much usually) means that faith is not being put into practice. It is just being announced. You know like I do that faith without works is dead. (James 2:17)

The wait isn't a bad thing though. Hear me out, beloved. There are several reasons why the wait is beneficial. Our Heavenly Father knew this concept would be hard to grasp and harder to practice so He gave us plenty of encouragement in His word regarding the wait. (I'll give you a few go-to scriptures later.) The struggle to wait on the Lord's promise is also not something new. It has been an issue with man since back when God promised Abraham and Sarah they would conceive as they approached and surpassed childbearing years. Recall with me that Sarah, impatient in the wait, had her servant Hagar sleep with Abraham to bear a child for her. (What Sarah?!) Yeah, you may not be able to relate to Sarah's impatience but if you think a little I am certain you can recall a situation in which you tried to take time into your own hands and make something happen.  I have learned that when we attempt to take time into our own hands, we are taking our lives out of God's hand. How many messes have you made with your hands? How many messes has God made with His? I think you would agree with me that His hands are the best place for our lives to be because clearly we've messed it up before. Maybe you haven't... but I have. 

Waiting serves several important purposes. Generally we are not ready for what we are waiting for. God understands that there is a process for promotion. Any step up in additional responsibility requires some level of preparation or training. You may be waiting on a new car but are not in the best financial position to make the payments. You may be waiting on a husband but there are some personal, financial, or emotional issues that you need to work out before committing to someone else lifelong. You may be waiting on a new job but there are skills that you need to acquire or discipline that you need to obtain before entering a new career. On the other hand, you may be ready to receive what God has for you but it isn't ready for you. Maybe God is working on getting the interest rates down on the car, cleaning up your credit so that you can get a better deal, making that man into a husband (There is a difference. We'll discuss that later), or situating the new career opportunity to make it a smooth transition. There are some things going on behind the scenes that you can't see. 

It is also likely that if the prep period is rushed, we may not be prepared once we receive it. That may lead to us misusing or being disobedient with it, causing us to lose it. Something that we have waited on so long.... gone... all because we weren't ready. The right thing at the wrong time may as well be the wrong thing! Think about some of the things that you've been praying for and waiting on. If God has yet to reveal what you should be doing while you wait, seek guidance. Meditate on these things and meet me back here in a couple of days to explore the wait further. Yes... you have to wait for the next post! :) 

With Love, 
-Kimyatta

Daily Prayer: Lord, I trust Your promise. I pray that Your will be done on earth as it is in heaven. Thank You for our daily bread and enough grace to make it through today. Help me to wait on Your plan and prepare me for whatever will bring You glory. 

Instead of a scripture to study, please check the follow up post for a few scriptures that you can jot down or bookmark to help you, to encourage you while you are waiting. Let's be transparent and real with each other while we are struggling with waiting, ladies. God has not forgotten us. :)